Diane Neill Jensen

Archive for September, 2009

HER QUOTE is “Everyone is in a different stage of recovery.”

IT’S TRUE. We all have our little life events that have hurt or damaged us in some way. Some more than others, but we all deal with these in our own way, in our own time. What’s a major crisis to some is just a bump in the road to others. What can push one to turn to alcohol and/or drugs, can just be a bad moment to another.

WHAT’S important about this quote or line of thinking is that since we all have weaknesses, we really shouldn’t judge others, but even if we do, we certainly shouldn’t voice our vehemently harsh criticisms to those who are struggling with their own demons. It doesn’t mean we have to expose ourselves to their behaviors, just keep our opinions to ourselves unless we are asked our opinion, and then only in the most non-judgmental way. This is a hard lesson to learn for some of us, as demonstrated in the short story below:

THERE IS an alcoholic in our community that moved here at the insistence of his mother-in-law because the young man and his even younger wife were living in pretty squalid conditions and the mother-in-law could not stand the fact that this young couple and their three small children were living in the unfinished basement of their druggie upstairs neighbors.

SO ALL of them moved home to live with her parents in a small but clean and comfortable home a few hours drive from where the kids had been living. Early on, Mom enjoyed helping her kids with their little ones. As everyone got to know each other, Mom was really tolerant. The young couple both helped out with housework and tried to keep the kids and the messes of raising little ones at a minimum. Despite the cramped quarters, everyone seemed to cope with each other fairly well.

EARLY ON, it had been set clear by Mom’s husband that alcohol was not something that he wanted around as an every day indulgence, and the son-in-law seemed to take the message to heart, but he never could wrap his head around the father-in-law’s idea that the young man should choose between his kids and his beer drinking.

AFTER about a year, the young couple and their (now four) babies purchased their own home to live in. Both parents had jobs, some part-time work, some full-time, along with some bits and pieces of entrepreneurial income.

FROM time to time in that year after moving out of the “in-laws” house, the wife, daughter, of the older couple would show up, kids in tow, at two or three o’clock in the morning, crying and upset with all the horrible things that her husband had said and done to her and the four little ones. So they’d all been made welcome with clean beds and snacks and were settled in for a good night’s sleep.

YOU KNOW the drill, they go back home after the alcoholic is sleeping it off, and while the alcoholic is only concerned about his hangover, the rest of the family is still going through remembering the pain of all the yelling and the commotion and the interrupted sleep. The alcoholic really has no clue what they are remembering and feeling.

ONE NIGHT, the mom, the mother-in-law, that is, had had enough. After the kids were all settled in at nearly three o’clock in the morning, she went back to her bedroom and got her husband up so they could go talk to son-in-law. Her husband maintains a fairly calm demeanor, but his wife reams the son-in-law up one side and down the other, and son-in-law does a lot of yelling back. Finally, her husband calls an end to the shout-fest and the fiasco ends with hurt feelings on both sides.

ALCOHOLICS have their own set of problems, and are more prone to paranoia about criticism. Alcoholics, as spouses and parents, are tolerated by their own household members. When these enablers of alcoholics are ready to make a change, they’ll do it on their own, and not necessarily when they are told to.

THE YOUNG couple, after a couple weeks, pack up their four little ones and two car loads of things, leaving behind their new home and the in-laws, and have not been back since.

THE MOTHER-IN-LAW, in trying to protect her grandchildren, ended up without them at all, a very sad thing for her, after bonding with the four babies for two years. She learned the hard way that everyone is in their own stage of recovery, and she voiced her opinion when she should have kept quiet.

To you, the reader: The Title of this article coincides with the lessons coined in Dale Carnegie’s timeless classic “How to Win Friends and Influence People” published in 1937.

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If you are thinking of starting your own business, and the term online marketing is throwing you off, don’t let a simple term like that worry you.

It is simply advertising a product or service online (on the world wide web) as opposed to in the real world of print, television and radio.

The business that I own, which belongs to a group of the best home businesses, does online marketing exclusively, but other than that, it’s just direct marketing with a dual compensation plan, one person to another. The new experiences that this development offers have been absolutely incredible. 

One thing that small business owners don’t always seem to realize is that advertising does work.  It’s one of the best making money ideas ever.

Anything that can be advertised in the real world can be advertised online. Auto companies can advertise on billboards, on television, on the radio, in newspapers and magazines as well as online with banners, through email, or on websites.

Don’t confuse “marketing” with the actual sale and taking possession of a product. The advertised product itself could be paid for either online in the “virtual” world or in the real world, just as the product itself (depending on what it is) could be delivered online to a computer or to a place in the real world.

E-books are an example of a product that could be delivered online to your computer. E-books, college courses and anything else that are in print, can be delivered online to your computer in that fashion, just as videos and music can be.

 As of the end of July 2009, the world’s population, is 6,774,690,901*. I’m not even sure how to say that!

Online marketing is as huge in its actuality and possibilities as is the population of the world, and the internet has the possibility of eventually involving each and every living human being in the world today and in the future, as long as they have access to it.

Did you know that some cellular phones have internet capabilities? So, you don’t even have to have a computer to be exposed to online marketing.

Online marketing also has the advantage of lower costs in addition to the wider audience.

Paid online advertising is a huge component of the advertising revenues spent online, but, just as in the real world, word of mouth is also a fact.

The word of mouth online term is “social marketing” which is a way of advertising a product or service without paying money for advertising.

If you want to learn more about how I market my business for little or no money,  just click the dancing advertisement and leave your email address when my business page opens.

Before you can help others, you need to help yourself, whether it’s your health, in your own business or job, or in the wisdom you find through personal growth, and working with the right team can make or break you.

In the words of Jim Rohn, one of the world’s leading motivational speaker, philosopher & entrepreneur, “In order for things to change, you must change.”

Change is not necessarily an easy thing, but with a great support team, it can be more successful.

If you have health problems, you may go to a doctor, if you need money, you find a way to earn it (hopefully) and probably with a job where you have a boss and co-workers, and you grow personally through life experience each day partly through those you associate with.

If you are not happy with your health and your current health professionals aren’t serving you to your satisfaction, you can look elsewhere.

If you don’t like your job, you can find another one. If your are associating with people who are not helping you grow wiser, you could find other friends or mentors.

Think about your current team. What are your needs? Are your needs being met?

It is helpful to write down your needs for each area, health, jobs and mentors, and see what areas are lacking.

Setting goals is essential to change.

Write a list of the things in your life you want to change in each area of your life. Break each down into do-able increments and set dates for these changes as goals.

Set the goals at a level that stretches you but does not overwhelm you.

Take the time to revel in your accomplishments, starting with being proud that you got your list done!

Over time, if you keep resetting goals, it will get easier to accomplish them.

Life is worth more if you keep improving your situation. Give it a try.

Give yourself some time now to start making a list of changes.

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the best home businesses and even includes financial retirement planning, just enter your name and email address on the form on this page or on the main page of http://dianeneilljensen.com

USING THIS bit of advice will help you achieve the power to change and hopefully improve your encounters with others. Oh, and if you are starting your own business, the cost of the books and writing utensils are tax deductible. While this little deduction is not a reason to start your own business, it certainly is incentive to save those receipts if you have starting your own business on your mind.

CARNEGIE gives this advice on the premise that you, in order to effectively learn the techniques in his book, will be reading and reviewing the book often, because our human memories are not that great. I know that is the case with me, so I will soon be trading in my library copy of Carnegie’s book for my very own copy of the first book ever written on how to deal with the many people that I associate with.

THE AUTHOR goes over nine suggestions before chapter one in order to get the most out of his book. When reading his suggestions, you may realize that he expects you to use this book as a lifelong instruction manual on dealing with people. In this book he hands you the power to change in order to more effectively deal with people, so if that is important to you, his expectation is reasonable.

I HOPE YOU obtain your own copy of his book and enjoy these new experiences while making a positive change in your life and of those around you.

WITH THAT in mind, by reading Carnegie’s book, you, too, have the power to change the way you deal with people in your new experiences.

THE BOOK is available in many bookstores in inexpensive paperback form, but in the meantime, my upcoming articles, starting October  8th, try to relate to you a little of the expertise from his book.

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Or,  are  you  hiding  from what’s  going  on  all  around  you ? ! ? !

Especially if you’re one of the many unemployed in the U.S., who could work at home.

Maybe you should think about starting your own business, use the best home businesses making money ideas and with a product that includes financial retirement planning.

There were 14.5 million unemployed persons in July in the U.S. according to Bureau of Labor Commissioner Keith Hall.

There is an alternative to being an employee with no control over your income possibilities.

Do not continue to be the victim of mainstream employment’s up and downs, never knowing when the hammer will fall.

Become independent, set your own pace, blow the top off your income potential.

Your answer is here, on the world-wide-web. Internet marketing is not the wave of the future.

It is here, now, and hundreds of thousands of people are enjoying their own endless flow of income right now.

It is not hard to do, and given the right leadership, you, too, can succeed.

Try some new experiences.

Join the other 500 thousand-plus self employed people in businesses like mine in the U.S

Internet Marketing is simply selling on the internet, which is relatively inexpensive when compared to the cost of reaching our target markets in other mediums like radio, tv and newspaper ads.

There are nearly 7 billion people in this world. Can you reach them via the internet?

Even in third world places on this earth, people enjoy the benefits of cellular phones capable of internet connectivity.

While they may not be your target market, this demonstrates how widespread the internet is.

It is truly the World Wide Web, and there for you to utilize. Every minute you wait, others are starting on the way to a life that, before the internet, was only attainable by those who had a natural ability to become millionaires.

You can use the power within you to learn these techniques, internet style, in clear and easy to use formats.

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